I’d talk to your direct manager about what happened and try to figure out what’s going on. I have no idea what the laws are in the UK since I’m in the U.S., but in the U.S., this would almost certainly be discriminatory, since it would be penalizing you for needing perfectly reasonable pregnancy-related accommodations. I said I felt that I would be too tired to attend all evening activities, to which she repeated that missing any of these would be “frowned upon” but “no one would blame me for choosing not to come to conference at all.” I effectively feel as though I have been uninvited from conference due to my pregnancy. There are likely to be 3-4 nights in a row with post-midnight finishes. However, if I chose to come, I would be expected to join in with all activities and missing anything would be “frowned upon.” She went on to explain that some of the activities involve evening entertainment away from our hotel, with no access to transport for me to return to the hotel early. I had a call from my boss’s boss to say that if I felt I couldn’t travel, it would be fine for me to miss conference. For January’s conference, I will be 26 weeks pregnant. Every year in January, we go on a week’s conference, usually abroad, to celebrate the previous year’s hard work and success. I am a UK-based business development manager for a German medical business. I’m pregnant and being warned I can’t miss any events on a celebratory work trip And once that has happened, refusing to comply is a pretty big deal.įor what it’s worth, it’s generally better for your career if you strive to feel professional at work, not sexy.ģ. If another manager chooses not to enforce that with their team, that’s that person’s call - but your manager is absolutely entitled to set this standard and enforce it. It’s totally reasonable to tell you that you need to come to work dressed professionally and without your underwear showing. Can one individual manager tell you this? Yes, my bra shows, but it’s nothing outrageous. To be honest, I like the feel and look of them against my skin and feel sexy wearing them, and my friends in another department wear them with no problem. I’ve been asked not to wear tight-fitting skirts and see-through blouses to work because you can see my bra and it’s distracting my coworkers.They are blouses you wear to the office the fabric is silky polyester. My manager told me to stop wearing see-through blouses (Sorry if that goes unsaid - something about your statement that when you use checklists, your work is much better made me worry that you’re not being as serious about them as you should be. If they’re about attention to detail (which it sounds like might be the case), you can also try slowing down, double and triple checking your work, and finding more ways to incorporate checklists.īut I’d also take your boss’s statement as a sign that you don’t have a lot more rope here, or more time - so whatever you can figure out to do, make sure you’re really committing to it. Beyond that, it’s hard to give specific advice without knowing the nature of the work you’re doing and the nature of the mistakes. Well, it sounds like you’ve figured out that checklist help dramatically - so use those religiously. How can I stop making screw-ups? How do I get out of my own way? How can I do damage control with my bosses? I noted that when I do follow these, my work is considerably better. Today I sent an email to my bosses apologizing again and letting them know I am following a series of “checklists” to keep track of everything. Last month, I came clean and admitted to them that I have been dealing with anxiety and ADHD issues that I am seeking treatment for (I know it was a huge risk divulging that information, but it was worth it). ![]() Today my boss said, “Sorry isn’t good enough anymore. I feel like in the last few months, I have had a major screw-up like clockwork, once a month. I have been at my job for about 14 months, and I was a temp here for six months before that. My boss told me “sorry isn’t good enough anymore”
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